I used to think that if i am discipline then i can earn more and more and will be rich one day like no other.

I had a misconception all in my 20’s the truth is how we bounce back from the failure in our life is the most aspect of our happiness.

Champions never punish themselves they recover faster.

There was a part of my life where i used to wake up at 4 and was sleeping like 6 to 7 hours and i was punishing myself. It was nighless dreams and i was under the impression that i will be successful one day, i was beating myself so hard that one day i could not stand and fell in the metro. Yes that true, i fall and someone came picked me up and gave a glass of water to drink.

My mother taught me a lesson when i reached home if I work like hell and do not care of my body I won’t succeed. If I want to play a long game then I have to be mentally strong and take care of my body.

If your body is good you can do what ever you want in your life, so HEALTH is WEALTH. It took me several years to understand but yes i learnt and now i focus on myself rather than thinking what other one is thinking about me.

I live alone , I am independent, i feel proud that some lessons in my life really gives me a path to go where i wish too. I am now emotionally detach to some of things of my life ,my health is good. I do exercise, meditation, pilates and yes absolutely not taking any stress.

I also used to overthink like we all are and that is absolutely fine. But just make sure you think for sometime and then quickly divert yourself in something else and see where you are. For my what works is set a timer for 24 hours think how long you want to think, learn a lesson with in 24 hours and move on.

If we are in failure phase i would just say its just God is taking your exam and then in coming days it would be full of happiness, so just enjoy that phase, might you would not get that moment to grief again.

Don’t ever feel sorry for yourself. Bounce back , fight and live yourself.

If we fail from something the first we do is Punish ourselves feel pity but rather than start thinking how can i fix this problem next time so it won’t happen again. Start thinking the solution rather than criticizing yourselves. Always listen to your heart and from internally and see the magic.

Now i will quickly share with you all which i call this as 4 A’s.

1. A – Acknowledged
2. A – Analyze
3. A – Adjust
4. A – Advance

So first thing when something bad happens like you missed the meeting, you failed in the exam, you messed up something. That’s all fine we all are humans and absolutely okay and ACKNOWLEDGED the thing/situation rather than punishing yourselves.

Now Second is ANALYZE so started getting the specifications why this happened ? Was i not prepared for the exam/meeting, what are the factors lead me to fail. So start jotting down the points.

Here we land up on our 3rd part which is ADJUST so now just ask a question to yourself ? What is the minimum viable change i can do ? Ex – you are in a relationship and you are giving 100% into but on the other side your partner is not happy. Just a ask a question is that All about the expectation ? What you promised and what you giving is that all worth it ? So question yourself and ask what is the minimum viable change can i really do to save the relation instead of changing all of you.

Now the last point is ADVANCE, we all did all research in terms of Acknowledging, Analyzing and Adjusting – Now ask a question to yourself How do we move forward now ? So now your brain will start looking all the options which we never think before.

So the learning is if we fail in any situation it is absolutely okay, start doing the analysis and see how can you do better next time.

Signing off !

Harneet K