We all are living in the 21st century and we all have our goals. One goal we all have common is to be rich and richer day by day.

Whether we do a white collar job, doing a part time, doing a business or even studying. We all have different preferences with different ambitions of life. One thing we all have common is to make money.

If i share my personal experience i am in my 30’s and now i see myself that i wasted a lot of time hanging out with others, office gossiping, relatives talks and even my personal relation that did not work.

At the end all gives me a lesson to Mind my own business. In my early’s 20 i always used to say YES to everyone, used to postpone my own things and do the others’ people work or do the things which make them other people happy. Without thinking for my own, i used to just focus on how to make money and from that money how to make happy others so that they can praise me.

The reality of life is you don’t need Validation from others to be successful in your life. You have to use your own brain, experience and think wisely before you do anything big.

Ex – If i buy a dress which is on sale and your like it you have to think whether should i go for it or not with all the factors of your life, rather than asking permission from your partner or your family/friends. You own your life so your decisions.

Now at this time i realize i wish i could had focused on my carrier, learnt to say NO to others and should had been with myself. You know sometimes it happens when we hear words or actions or grief some other people opinions our own people and we try to help them, to be honest we are using our energy, brain and sometimes physically present as well.

Just think we are trying to help others but just double check is it really worth, is it going to be forever relation with the same person. So just cross question yourself and see you get all your answers. I am not saying don’t help others but its just HELP YOURSELF first and then help others.

In my personal experience i had so many relations where i did so much for others, in terms of giving support mentally, monetary or socially but it was all short term.

Now i think i wish i could focused more on myself rather than on others, i would be in different situation now. I am happy where i am and i am grateful too. All these things happen in the past gave me a lesson for a lifetime.

So i have learnt to be emotinally detach , ignore and make respect for yourself so that others can RESPECT you too.

Signing off !

Harneet K